Some women know they are lesbians – from as far back as they can remember. For others, it can take a while to understand how they really feel and who they really are. At some point there will come a time when you have your first lesbian relationship. This might be your first relationship at all, or it could be that you’ve had relationships with men in the past. Either way, it doesn’t matter – your first lesbian relationship is something new and exciting, and it’s worth knowing a little more about how to navigate it to ensure you make the most of it. Read on to find out more.
Communicate Well
If there is one thing that can signal the death knell in any relationship, it’s a lack of communication. One partner becomes frustrated at the other for not instantly understanding what it is they want or need, despite never communicating what they want or need. Communication isn’t easy, especially if you’ve never been in a lesbian relationship before and are not sure how to communicate in a way that won’t offend or upset anyone.
The key is to be honest. If you’re unsure what to do in bed, say so – you’ll never learn otherwise. If you want your partner to do something specific, or you want to try Wet For Her sex toys, or you think it might be fun to carry out this fantasy or that one, you have to communicate that.
Communicating your feelings, your ideals, your dreams, and who you really are is crucial too, otherwise you’ll end up resenting your partner and they won’t even know why.
You Both Have Flaws
When you’re entering your first lesbian relationship, it’s easy to idolize your girlfriend. After all, she’s teaching you everything you need to know and helping you navigate this new stage. However, idolizing someone is never a good idea; it’s how problems can start in a relationship – eventually that perfect person is going to make a mistake or show some ‘weakness’ and your dreams will come crashing down.
It’s best to enter a relationship knowing that you both have flaws. No one is perfect and that includes you, so bear that in mind that you will make mistakes and so will she, and it’s how you deal with those mistakes that makes all the difference.
Make Time For Each Other
Relationships are hard and they take work. One of the ways to do this is to make time for one another. Ideally, you should do this every day. If you live apart, make sure you talk to one another – either on the phone or via a video call – every day. Make it a ritual that you talk to each other about how your day went, and always say goodnight to one another, for example. If you live together, that doesn’t mean you automatically make time for one another, especially when you’re busy with work and other commitments, so why not try to eat together without the TV or any screens to distract you, giving you the opportunity to talk about important things or silly things or future things.
Making time for one another will ensure your relationship stays strong, and that’s important.
