You’re invited to ‘Surviving the Silence’

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IN 1992, COLONEL PAT THOMPSON WAS A DECORATED ARMY NURSE, ONLY TWO YEARS AWAY FROM RETIREMENT. She was asked to preside over the military review board that eventually dismissed Colonel Margarethe Cammermeyer for admitting she was a lesbian. Although Thompson had served her country with distinction for over thirty years—from conflict zones in Central America to working inside the Pentagon—that appointment was perhaps the hardest. In that moment, she had to protect her own life secret: that she too was a lesbian and living privately with her life partner Barbara Brass for many years.

At the time, the story of Cammermeyer made national headlines, fueled in part by President Clinton’s push to allow gays and lesbians to serve openly in the military. In 1995, Cammermeyer published a successful memoir Serving in Silence which was further adapted into a made-for-TV movie executive-produced by Barbara Streisand and starring Glenn Close. Yet, Thompson’s part in the story remained a secret until 2013 when she and Barbara, now married, decided to go public for the very first time at a college speaking engagement in Northern California. Much to their delight, that speech received a resounding standing ovation, empowering them on their unfolding journey as OUT and PROUD lesbians who are visibly committed to using their unique life experience in pursuit of social justice and activism.

By chance filmmaker Cindy L. Abel was also in the audience that night, and she was touched deeply by Pat and Barbara’s courage. She knew instinctively that a compelling film about their specific journey could serve as the capstone narrative on a truly national story that most Americans might perceive as a closed chapter from the 1990s. From there, Abel began the work of filming Pat and Barbara’s love story under the banner SURVIVING THE SILENCE, a project which has also inspired them to co-author their memoir. Abel’s film is her latest feature documentary endeavor, now in post-production.

Through personal testimonies told by the people who lived it, SURVIVING THE SILENCE delves deeply into the complex and closeted relationship of Colonel Pat Thompson and Barbara Brass and their basis for being such engaged activists for LGBTQ Equality. When it comes to their early years, they candidly share how they wrestled with heart-wrenching choices in both public and private, hiding their relationship, speaking in code on the phone during long separations, and struggling to protect their love while preserving Thompson’s career. Their story also includes the as yet untold aspects of the heartbreaking dismissal of Cammermeyer and reveals why Cammermeyer candidly calls Thompson a ‘hero’. Cammermeyer makes a present-day appearance in the film in direct conversation with Thompson. Together, the three women offer up nuanced portraits of the difficulties that came with being a lesbian in America throughout the 20th century. This film honors them—and the countless women like them—who made similar sacrifices.

And, BIG NEWS: your donation can be tax-deductible! Yes, Independent Arts & Media is now our fiscal sponsor, so we can accept a variety of donations – from cash to corporate matching and even stocks!

Take a minute to check out our new Website and Pitch Packet that beautifully showcase this story you’re helping make. And, get to know Marc Smolowitz, Consulting Producer. He’s been working behind the scenes at various times and now we’ve been able to bring him on in an active way. His support of my efforts as Director/Producer is invaluable as he provides story consultation and takes the lead on fundraising.

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