Being in a long-term relationship can be a wonderful thing. You grow with your best friend, have a deep level of understanding, and have built your life on a foundation together.
However, the initial ‘new relationship’ passion can become more of a slow burn, which is just one of those things that happen when we become well acquainted with someone and our neurochemicals calm down.
If you are looking for some ideas on how you can inject some passion back into your relationship and facilitate a deeper intimacy, read on for some top tips.
Focus on Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy often takes a leading role in our sex life, so when that is lacking, it can be difficult to want to hop in between the bedsheets. If you find that you have not had a lot of quality time to spend together, start cutting it out of your day and make a real effort to start ‘dating’ again. This can be anything from making a meal together, trying a new activity together, or having uninterrupted conversations where phones are put away and you focus on each other. All of these can get you back to a base level of romance and give you a chance to focus on your relationship. This can be more difficult in our day-to-day life, with so many demands and concerns, so putting in that effort is really important.
Focus on Non-Sexual Physical Touch
Physical touch can release the hormone oxytocin, which is what your brain is initially flooded with when you first start dating someone – this is why you cannot keep your hands off of each other. You can encourage the production of oxytocin by hugging, cuddling, holding hands, a relaxing massage, or even taking a bath together. This can also release stress, which is well known for getting in the way of a healthy sex life. It is important to note here that a healthy sex life is what you and your partner determine it to be, where you are both happy.
Try Something You Have Not Tried Before
One of the best ways to bring intimacy back into your relationship is to try something new. It can be difficult to get excited about being with someone if you already know exactly how it is going to go, even if it is good. Switch things up to make things more interesting and find new things to try together. This could be anything from trying new positions, being together in a place that is not the bed or even bringing some Pink Toys into the mix. This is a great way to explore something together and find out more things about yourself and your partner. You might think there is nothing left to know or try, but you will be surprised what can come out, especially as many of us grow and change over the years!
Communication is fundamentally the most important aspect of all of these suggestions and making sure both of you are comfortable should be a top priority.
