Coping with holiday ex-iety

Broken heart ornamentBY KATY RAY
Tagg Magazine

After I experience a major break up, I suffer from what I refer to as “ex-iety”, the range of uncontrollable feelings and irrational emotions you experience when you get a text, an e-mail, or a phone call from the one who broke your heart. It’s the feeling of rage that flashes before your eyes as her name pops up on your mutual friend’s Facebook wall. It’s that uncontrollable laughter you burst into when you see her parading her new partner around your local lesbian bar. It’s that look on your face when you answer the door and it’s her: unannounced, unexpected, and unpredictable.

Whether you’re like me, and have been living with ex-iety for years, or you’ve just begun to show signs of this post-traumatic relationship disorder, there is always a better relationship out there, waiting for you. And it is that kind of hope that keeps me going this holiday season. But no matter how long it’s been, ex-iety can and will strike at any moment, with or without warning. So how do we cope with it? I have found three simple solutions to help me manage my ex-iety this holiday season.

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Tagg Magazine is a print and online resource for LBT women in the DC Metropolitan and Rehoboth, DE areas.

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