BY GLENDA CORWIN, Ph.D.
Recently I talked with a group of women who are tentatively, maybe, thinking about a dreaded activity called “dating.” These women were all emerging from the depths of long-term relationship loss, and wondering how to make social and romantic connections again. So the discussion turned to dating. This was the response.
“No way! I didn’t date before, I never learned how to date, I don’t want to learn now!”
So I think that summarizes the problem very succinctly. Didn’t do it before—probably true. Lots of lesbians didn’t date much in high school, so of course didn’t learn “how to date.” And the not wanting to learn…understandable, but not a realistic plan. I mean, some form of dating is required if you ever want to have a partner again.
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