Online dating is an art form. It can take skill, patience, practice and a healthy dose of luck to get the kind of dates you’re really looking for. But what are the tried and tested tactics that will get girls replying to your messages or flocking to your profile? Take a look at the top tips from the women who know: Dattch.com, the dating app for lesbian, bisexual, curious and queer women.
YOUR PROFILE PICTURE NEEDS TO BE OF YOUR FACE
You would think this would be a given, but far too many are ashamed of trying online dating and try to hide behind pictures of their dogs or a picture of a sunset. Would you walk into a bar or cafe with a mask on? No, so why would you try to meet people online that way? It’s all well and good wanting people to fall in love with your personality, but you’re making it really hard for them to connect with you if you’re hiding.
ACTUALLY FILL OUT YOUR PROFILE
Again, this should be a given, but we’ve all seen profiles that just say, “Ask me.” Ask what? How do planes work? What time is it? It’s the same your profile picture, would you walk up to someone in a bar, look them in the eye and say, “Ask me.”
DON’T OPEN WITH “HEY”
If you can’t think of a better conversation starter than “hey,” don’t message that person yet. Think of a funny opener or ask them a question based on their profile, but avoid generic messages as it just shows you’re not interested in that specific person. You could be saying “hi” to hundreds of people, make an effort for the ones you actually want to talk to.