BY NATASIA LANGFELDER
Lesbian.com
Women are complicated. Sometimes you need a decoder ring to figure out what the words they are saying actually mean. And when you’re talking about a lez relationship, it’s twice as hard. Which is why I’m going to help you decode what your crush/potential girlfriend is saying when she types “LOL.” Let’s face it, most of us aren’t laughing out loud when we type it, especially not to a lady we might be into.
WHEN LOL MEANS “I’M FLIRTING WITH YOU”
I said “hi” and she said “hi, LOL” — wtf does that mean?
Between text messages, Gchat, dating site messages, email and Facebook messages chances are, if you like a girl, you and her are going to be engaging in a ton of written communication. Some girls add “LOL” to the end of a sentence to indicate that they are flirting with you. Think of it as the IRL (in real life) equivalent of her flipping her hair, putting her hand on your arm or smiling at you with that goofy crush face smile.
Example 1:
You: Nice weather today, I might take my dog for a walk.
Her: Dogs love walking in nice weather lol
This “lol” means, please ask me to take a walk with you, because I think you’re cute.
Example 2:
You: Chocolate chip cookies are my favorite!
Her: Mine too! lol
This “LOL” means, we have so much in common, you should totally go out with me.
Basically, in the case of the flirty “LOL” it means she’s really glad you are talking to her, not that you’re the next Kathy Griffin.
WHEN LOL MEANS “PLEASE COMPLIMENT ME NOW!”
This “LOL” is sneaky and you have about 30 seconds to react in the way she needs you to react before she totally freaks out. Let’s look an example.
Example:
Her: I think this sports bra makes my boobs look really small, lol
OK, when a woman refers to any part of her body negatively and then adds an “LOL” you need to tell her that body part is awesome, ASAP.
There are several ways to respond.
“They look great, babe”
“I like that they are cute and perky”
“You only need a mouthful”
WHEN LOL MEANS “COMFORT ME”
“My boss just reamed me out lol”
See also: “I just failed my chemistry test lol”
Despite the “LOL” chances are she’s more upset about things than she’s leading on. Take this as a cue to be sensitive and there for her. Get her flowers! Orrrr simply respond with, “That sucks babe, anything I can do?”
WHEN LOL MEANS “I’M REALLY ANNOYED WITH YOU BUT I DON’T WANT TO SCARE YOU AWAY”
This is really common in new relationships. The most common phrases:
“Were you flirting with that girl? lol”
“Are you really not going to spend the whole night? lol”
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking she’s just kidding. She’s on the verge of being angry. The best approach is to tackle this head on and apologize for whatever it is.
WHEN LOL MEANS “I THINK YOU’RE ADORBS”
This one will come after you say something funny, even if she doesn’t really think it’s funny. Luckily for you, she thinks you’re cute.
Everytime you send me a “that’s what she said” text, I’ll send you an “LOL” back, even though that joke is a million years old.
What do you mean when you say “LOL”?
Natasia Langfelder is just a girl, writing about girls in New York City. Read more of her work at Hot Femme in the City.
hey if a girl has to use ‘ lol’ to tell me to compliment her or give her sympathy or accuse me of flirting well I just might leave her where she is standing. using lol to try to control what she want Me to say to her is like a 2 year old throwing a tantrum for ice cream.. it wont happen. the girl is not one of integrity nor does she have any dignity… and her self esteem is in the toilet
I want an girl who if honest with me and doesn’t play games of this or any sort. if you have to play games then you are not old enough to have a girl friend .
you need to grow up and get real.