Ask the Femme: Do lesbian relationships last?

BY NATASIA LANGFELDER
Hot Femme in the City

It’s brutal honesty time, Hot Femme style. 

Part 6

Well yes, duh. But let’s get down to the deets. Photo credit: Ara Lucia via photo pin cc

Dear Femme,
I’m an Asian lesbian in my 30s and I’ve been single for almost a year. I can’t seem to find that special woman who I feel physically and emotionally attracted to and who feels the same about me. I was always in a relationship in my 20s and felt the need to be intimate with someone but in my 30s, I no longer need to fullfill that sexual need. I also find it harder as I get older to find a partner. I moved to another state for a partner I trusted. But she left me for a man who was her best friend and who I also believed was my friend. I believe lesbian relationships don’t last and have begun to feel jaded. I don’t like to feel lonely and hate sleeping alone but can’t seem to find a woman that I can feel intimately attracted to and safe with.

Please help, thanks.
Azn

Hi Azn,
Thanks for writing in! There is a lot going on here. You’ve had a bad experience and I’m sorry for that. You placed your trust in the wrong person, changed your life for her, she betrayed you and it sucks. But you need to move on.

Let's Be Serious

Stern cat says, “Get over it or I’ll claw your face off.” That cat means business. Photo:Mr. Ducke via photo pin cc

Being single for a year isn’t the worst thing that can happen to you; it’s not even that long to be single! It seems as though you have already starting thinking about your own needs and what you want from a partner. I’m going to suggest that you continue to learn about yourself and worry less about being single. Put finding love on hold for a little while, go out and have fun. Don’t stay home and feel sorry for yourself, join a gym, take cooking or art classes, drink your coffee at a café instead of at home. While you are out doing things and learning to love your own company, the right woman will come along. But you won’t meet her if you are at home hiding under the covers and crying over someone who didn’t deserve you.

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No matter how cute you are, girls can’t bust into your bedroom and find you. Photo credit: Helga Weber via photo pin cc

Also, you should keep in mind that just because your former love left you for a man, not all women will do that to you. Lesbian relationships aren’t doomed to failure. The Chick-Fil-A guy didn’t put some crazy curse on us that causes girl on girl relationships to fail…ermm…I hope he didn’t. Either way I’m sure it won’t work.

What I’m saying is, people change and there is going to be drama, betrayal, love, affection in any relationship, gay or straight. People of all orientations, genders, races, religions and political affiliations get their hearts broken and if they are lucky, they find their forever love.

Have a question for me? Email askafemme@yahoo.com

Natasia Langfelder is just a girl, writing about girls in New York City. Read more of her work at Hot Femme in the City

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