BY DR. FRANKIE BASHAN
Curve
Dear Dr. Frankie,
I tend to have an obsessive personality and get clingy whenever I have a crush or am infatuated with someone. I can’t help myself, and it just takes over, even when I know I’m starting to smother people. Right now, I am in love with a singer-song writer I met through a friend. She is super friendly and affectionate, and welcomes me with hugs. Every time I go her concerts I try to hang around her as much as I can, and record all of her songs with my phone. I can sense that I’m starting to become a little much, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to freak out and push me away, but on the other hand, I hang on to every bit of attention from her — what can I say, I just want to be loved. Of course, she’s straight and has a boyfriend. But, it makes me happy when I think of her and listen to her songs. Do you think I am actually getting annoying? What do you think she is thinking about me? Why do I obsess so much, and how do I get over it. Thanks!
Dear Clingy,
Well the first and most obvious issue is that the object of your affection is not only straight but also has a boyfriend. Be a good fan with appropriate boundaries and move on. You’re barking up the wrong tree.
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